Earlier this year I watched an epic video by Ray Dalio, and it made me write something down that has been quite impactful since:
“What is Reality? Embrace it.”
In the morning & night I recite 3 things I feel grateful for, but then also read this.
Reality is yin & yang, truth is there’s a lot more you could be grateful for, and by reciting some gratitude stuff and affirmations you’d be a lot happier.
At the same time, reality faces us with some difficult situations sometimes.
A cause of a lot of your suffering is just from resisting the situation, instead of embracing it fully.
I’ve been doing a lot of reflecting recently, and MOST problems that I’ve had were never too complicated when I thought about it… And same for my problems moving forward.
The problem was that I was stuck in my head of how things “should be,” or I just didn’t accept the situation fully.
When you stop telling stories about everything that is happening in your life, you can actually find a solution rather easily.
Earlier this year, I was telling a victim story about how my travels went out of control, my visa for Bulgaria fucked up, and I broke up with my ex.
The thing was that to move forward I had to stop telling a story. I had to take off the victim hat, analyze the situation, and then start moving forward.
Eventually I embraced reality, woke up, and realized that I had wasted a couple months just being sad, and not really doing anything meaningful.
Note: alternatively we could say that those months of sadness were necessary to get over the heart-break, who knows.
Still, had I boiled things down into the simplest explanation, then I would’ve been able to take care of myself much better. Without embracing reality, you have no clarity, and with no clarity comes no good decision.
Some things that help you become clear are meditation, quitting social media, quitting video games, walking in nature, talking or writing about your problem, and exercise.
Now that I’ve started doing this, I’ve been writing a lot less on here because a lot more has been happening in my own life.
My next business steps are obvious, same for personal life, and even for travel or where to live.
Just try to boil everything down to a simple sentence, as hard as it may be. Then it becomes easier to ask others for advice, and you don’t get a huge variance in responses.
Back when I told stories, people would understand different parts of the story, and then give different parts of advice. It was highly varied and thus not actionable.
Now when I explain a simple sentence with a, “my current situation is this, but I would like this desired situation,” the answer(s) become rather obvious for others to provide me, or me to provide myself.
You can do this yourself as well. When you’ve got a problem, just start writing in your journal or reflecting until you can boil this down into a simple sentence.
Anyways, that’s all for now. Have a great day!