I’d like to think that the vast majority of people on Earth are good- that it is only bad situations which turn them dark, and that darkness is but a passing moment, not them.
But even in such optimistic beliefs, it is impossible not to deny the darkness that lies within some of the walking demons here on Earth.
These people- demon humans- are in reality as they are described figuratively. Let one into your life and you can expect hell on Earth.
The thing about demon humans is that it’s the smart ones you have to be afraid of, or at least the ones that are “more normal” but still corrupted.
The less intelligent demon humans will go rob a bank, or commit some crime that gets them locked up rather easily. These are the obvious dangers we should fear.
It’s often visible who these people are very early on, and their vibes are powerfully potent- it doesn’t take long around them to feel a sense of danger so strong that even those most disconnected from their intuition know logically this person needs to be cut out.
The ones you should fear are those that you’ll never know are a demon until weeks, months, or years later.
These walking demons are “more human” on the scale from hell to heaven. They will have friendships, relationships, successes and achievements, and be “okay enough” to get by in society.
What I am describing by using the term “demons” are those crimes committed by humans that are not legally criminal- instead those humans that’ll ruin your life in every other way.
It is illegal to punch you in public, but it is not illegal to make you fall in love with someone, get you very attached, then cause you emotional hell, destroy your self esteem, and take everything you’ve got and leave you dry.
These demons are not just romantic either (but the romantic ones receive the most press)- they can be friends, co-workers, bosses, clients, anyone!
What makes someone a demon?
A demon will typically be a narcissist, have machiavellian tendencies, be a psychopath, be extremely bipolar (and take it out on you), or have some other mental illness that hurts not just them but torments those around them.
Remember it is a grey scale. Most people are not black n’ white. There is a degree of psychopathy, a degree of narcissism, etc.
The grey zone is what we need to be careful of. Those that are clearly dark will be shunned from society rather quickly, or commit a crime that sends them to prison.
The grey zone people (or even some of the smarter darker ones) will make you feel amazing- they will be charming, loving, or have only a few red flags.
We all have our personality quirks, right? How do you distinguish between a quirk and darkness?
The point of this post is not to write about all of the red flags because there are many, and I am no expert. I’ve just had a few experiences, done a bit of research on the “dark triad” and other personality type theories, and in integrating the knowledge + experience have become more naturally aware of what’s going on with the people around me.
These days I am more cautious. I am more guarded. I carry a big smile, yes- you must be enthusiastic with everyone you meet as to not turn off the good people.
But I don’t let anyone get too close for some time now. When a girl wants me to commit to her, I wait. I tell her this too, and remind her that she doesn’t know me either (if we’re being completely honest, we all have a little darkness within).
I am careful to tell details about my work, my life, my weaknesses, to anyone who might be able to abuse it. I do not have roommates, and do not intend to have roommates for a long time.
Sounds like a lot- sounds like I’m being paranoid, but if you met me, you’d never know that I think this. You’d probably assume I’m naive and giggly with joy.
Like I said you can’t turn off the many great people in this world being afraid of the few evil ones. You just have to be careful in how you approach any new person.
I will be giving, abundant, happy, free-flowing, all that without paranoia. No need to not enjoy an interaction- there are some “demons” I’ve met with whom I smile and talk when they are there within a group, because there is no other choice and because they still have a little light within ‘em.
The key thing here is to not give too much or to be naive. Give people the benefit of the doubt, but don’t trust them with your wallet until they’ve earned it- you get what I mean?
The thing you need to realize too is that the high-functioning “demons” (ie. sociopaths and narcissists) will not be recognized as such by everyone.
We all scream evil at the atrocities committed by those in the great wars, but few will see you getting backstabbed by someone you thought you could trust.
This is the great dilemma here- you can’t necessarily scream “demon” and cut the person out if they hurt you, or if they are presenting extremely red flags. Other people will jump to the demon’s back because the demon has only been given to them; the demon has not backstabbed them… Yet.
You need to be attentive to red flags when meeting new people without cutting them out too soon. There are good people with a few dark sides that deserve to be trusted and cared for, and whom you can rely on, but there are also bad people with a very good side.
All I can do is point you in the direction of learning about narcissists, sociopaths, and all that- it’s rather fascinating, and you no doubt will have stories of your own!
In the end there is almost always red flags. People’s true natures come out somehow before that “epic event” which ruins it all. In some rare cases there are perhaps no red flags, but in many there are.
You should trust your intuition too- sometimes you just get a feeling of “oh wait this person is not right.” Leave, and give it time.
Other times you may be lacking in a certain way (ie. business connections, dating connections, etc.) and feel that you are stuck with that person.
This has happened to me when I was moved to a new city. Because high-quality, socially intelligent people don’t hangout with narcissists and other “demons,” they cut out demons…
Thus making the demons easier to meet. You’re looking for new friends, and they’re constantly getting cut out so… They find you!
Other times the narcissist is super high-functioning, capable of love-bombing some people and making some connections. In these cases it’s also tempting to stay in their life because of what they have to offer.
Or the narcissist may have certain necessary skills for business. In these grey zone situations, there’s almost always SOME value or slightly good side that makes it hard for you to cut out the otherwise toxic person.
These are the situations I wish to raise awareness for! If someone is 100% rotten you will know obviously- you don’t need intuition to tell you because it’ll be screaming and your mind will see clearly what’s going!
It is those situations that are grey where it’s dangerous.
They’re nice for a month then start acting up. Is it you, did you mess up? Maybe you hurt them?
They’ve got massive value to offer, but there’s a sense they’re taking a bit too much. Maybe you aren’t that valuable after all?
They praise you when you please them, but as soon as who you are isn’t in total alignment with them, they criticize you harshly. Maybe they were right?
The sex is so good, and he or she is nice “BUT……”
The “friendship” was strong for 5 months, when “SUDDENLY…..”
These people may not even be aware that they are doing such toxic things, and good people also make some of the same mistakes that narcissists and demons make.
That’s why it’s so hard to figure out who is who! The good person will make a mistake, be genuinely sorry, and then make sure it doesn’t happen again
The bad person will make the mistake and then do anything it takes to get you back, disregarding your feelings at the same time.
It’s hard to distinguish between the two. That’s why I’m raising awareness for this to you.
One scary thing about learning about this is seeing those negative patterns and behaviors in yourself.
You may come to find YOU are a bit dark in some ways, and that you need to fix it. Although the pain of others will hurt a ton, it is even more difficult to recognize the darkness within yourself and heal it.
“Oh shit… Maybe I was a little manipulative. Maybe I acted the wrong way and hurt him/her because of that way. Maybe it wasn’t ALL their fault.”
Confronting my own darkness in the demise of my last serious relationship was the hardest thing to do.
Strangely enough, it doesn’t hurt that much. The pain from others will be more painful, but to just see what YOU did is worse.
When you become aware of your darkness, it almost instantly dissolves into light. The hardest part of your own personal transformation is complete. The first step, and hardest, is to see.
In the future you will not be so easily capable of those dark acts, for you will know that they hurt others, and even more hurt your own honor and integrity.
You can’t be dark because you are aware, and to be intentionally dark in awareness is true evil.
You’ll notice the pull of darkness when it comes. You’ve read the articles. You’ve reflected on your past. You will stay aware, and burn the darkness into light.
This is your inner transformation, and without the inner side of this path you will remain a victim to the darkness within others. Darkness finds darkness.
You may not be evil like a demon, but it is still that trauma and pain within that attracts you to the darkness of others.
Those that are light, that are free, happy, socially intelligent, and abundant in their lives can cut out so quickly those people that are not good for them.
It is only those that are desperate and in pain themselves, or also dark, that will miss the red flags the demons wave as they plunge their knife into your gut or your heart.
Ultimately remember that in cutting people out you are doing everyone involved a favor.
You are no longer feeding their darkness. You are taking care of yourself. You are opening a space for good people to come into your life- good people who might genuinely need your support and love!
You will become more abundant and light and happy, and be able to spread more lightness to others…
But it all comes down to that single choice to be aware. To observe the actions of others and even more importantly the actions of yourself.
Those that are good in your life treat well- and those that are not, no need to be dramatic. Smile and move on. Be authentic if they ask, but be careful not to get sucked into battle.
Know that darkness exists, even among so much light. Research narcissism, sociopaths, all that stuff! They are in prison, but they are also walking among us.
It is a crime to physically destroy someone, but not emotionally. So be careful those that hurt your emotions, and be daring in taking care of yourself.
You are an adult now. We all are. No one can take care of you but you. The fate of your own life rests on your shoulders from now on.
Armed with this awareness, I hope that you go out and take care of yourself. Be light, heal yourself, and free yourself of the chains others tie onto you!